Choose how you think of other people

How we choose to think about other people can make a huge difference in what we get out of our relationship with them and how much we benefit from having them in our lives.

Our thoughts about others can equally create growth and connection or limit our our benefits from relationships. 

We already know that our brains most important job is to protect us. Also they love to defer responsibility for our lives to other people and circumstances. It’s a lot easier to blame than to assume responsibility for all that is happening in our life. 

Thinking disempowering thoughts about other people ends up directly disempowering us. It’s so much easier to look for flaws and shortcomings than to deeply examine and recognize the brilliance. Another hint why this can be very helpful is that how we choose to see others is how we choose to see ourselves. 

Choosing to see our boyfriend our aunt as smart and giving etc. has two major benefits:

1. It makes us think of ourselves as smart and giving, etc. 

2. Makes us think that other people think of us as such. 

When you show up and give 100% you also receive 100%. You only have access to other people’s highest selves when you are in your highest self. 

PS. If you have a coach or a therapist or a mentor, all of this also applies. If you believe that they are amazing and will help you achieve what you want, they will! So, clean up your negative disempowering thoughts about the people in your life and start loving them. This is where the biggest gains are.

If you find my tips helpful, consider putting them into practice. Insight is 20 percent, practice is 80 percent of success.